In our modern societies most people “love sex”. Some of them even try to get “illuminated” through the tantric and sensual sex performances; Some others condemn it because it appears to be dirty or bad for our spiritual path. Others are in between. Or in none of them?
The question is : Which place does sex occupy in your life today? Why does sex take so much space in our mind ? Why does almost everything (explicitly or implicitly) is oriented in that direction? Why is so important to seek for sexual satisfaction before everything? We are not spiritual being and we no able to control our biological sexual needs. It doesn’t mean that that we need to repress it but neither be obsessed by it. Today, sex is too easy to get and love is so hard to find that we are becoming detached from bith of them and we usually take them for granted very fast!
Since I was very young, I have been asking to myself questions about the sense or meaning of sex and love or what is meant of “my sexuality” to me. I don’t really know it yet but I am proud to say that today my happiness doesn’t depend any more on sex or in somebody else’s love towards me. It is first my own self love that makes me feel free and loved as never before.
It is the first time that my body, mind and soul are completely in harmony without making any effort to suppress or repress my sexuality: No need to get any more “one night stand empty sex” or being used in an unbalanced relationship with authentic persons,…
I really believe that true love is born within ourselves first (the being), it is neither sex, nor pleasure, nor desire that make it be authentic and lasts. Love is not hatred, nor indifference, or pervert silence, not good, no bad, it just is.
Love is unconditional in all its forms, all the time and everywhere, no only while having sex.
Love make us shine with our own brightest lights and bring us naturally joy and peace. It is a pure and unique renewal of your whole being in the most authentic form. We all have the power and the love to elevate ourselves without depending on any drugs or physical additions.
Unfortunately, sex has become something a mechanic routine and almost without real value. It is a consumed “product” as many others in the market. It is a temporary remedy to our internal storms and miseries that we carried deep inside. It is the “morphine” that distract us temporarily our pain.
Is love sex? Is sex love? Can we love without sex? Can we have sex without love? What is love? What is sex? How our society sells and vulgarizes / banalizes sex and love today? Do you have your own the answers to these questions? Share them !
For me, the fundamental conditions of love are freedom and compassion even if many consider the opposite (possession). With time, love/sex become a golden trap, a jail,… what ends up tiring us part, suffocating us and mainly making us sick … even driving us mad, and making us even able to kill or harm ourselves and others for love … because it is passionate love. We convince ourselves and we swear that it is love.
Then, naturally, and almost inevitably, over the days, the weeks, the months and the years, we will say that love disappeared, or that we no longer believe in it – it can happen very fast… The powerful and true love just disappears in a desperate last “breath”. Well, don’t lie to yourself and be honest, it‘s because it was never love, only God knows what that was, but it wasn’t love…
We are fooling ourselves and ‘faking love’ pretending to be who we don’t really are…We are afraid to be ourselves and in reality, we are not any more ready to be completely naked to love purely without masks. We are no ready to get into the love “prison” any more, neither for anyone and lose our freedom. It is much easy to change partner than to change cars today ! Get your “next girlfriend” with a simple “click” on tinder or on an online dating site without any effort. You don’t even need to do the classic restaurant “thing” any more. So authentic and beautiful, no way! Luckily, I am out of the “wild meat” market and I am happy being alone. Patience, dedication, and energy to love and to be love, sex is not enough.
Please watch this: what is your status?
What is your status today? Are you inside or outside of the market? How do you get to know your potential partners? Do you really take the right time to fall in love without skipping the “falling in love “stages”? Are you happy with this kind of “fast love industry”? Do you have any other choice today? Well, find out. I am sure we could do better! We are more than a body, we deserve to be love in a unique and valuable way with respect and consideration. Love is a state of being not an emotion or sensation! Let the unconditional love penetrate the deepest layer of your inner pure higher Self. When it will come come will see it without any hesitation! Follow your heart and your intuition!
I would like to share an interesting video of Krishnamurti about sex and Love. His point is simple but very powerful. He is asking to us why sex has become so important in our lives?
I have found this video so inspiring that I started writing this article to reflect about it. Hope you find it interesting.
Please really take a while to watch it and share tour comments don’t be afraid and open up!
Peace and Love,
Norma Carpediem
Carpediemlife: Here and Now 
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